2) Ask Important Questions
Your partner should be able to carry on a conversation without letting the important things slip through the cracks.
Asking questions is a great way to get to the root of problems, discomfort, money, love, children, transportation, travel, bills, jobs – whatever it is that you are talking about, if your partner isn’t asking the important question then they probably aren’t worth being with.
What are the important questions? For starters, “how can I help?”, “how can I take some responsibility in this relationship?”, and “what am I bringing to the table?”
3) Pay Attention
Whether you ask for bread and milk to be picked up on the way home from work or you are feeling tired and cranky, you want to know that your partner is paying attention to you.
People who pay attention tune into what you are experiencing and while they can never walk in your shoes, they often try to understand how you feel by asking and getting involved in the conversation.
When you ask them to do something or ask them to refrain from doing something in the future, they don’t just glaze over the request and get back to watching Netflix.